Figuring out Feelings

Figuring out Feelings          

          Different places equals different feelings. When you are with your friends you might be happy. When you are alone you might be sad. Different places, different feelings.

Feelings will vary depending on your setting, or who you’re with. Some common examples of these are, when you’re at school and have an important presentation. Studies show that, “Feeling anxious is part of the normal range of emotions, just like feeling angry or embarrassed. For most teenagers, anxiety doesn't last and goes away on its own. But for some teenagers it doesn't go away or is so intense that it stops them from doing everyday things.” (raisingchildren.net) The different settings and  situations we are in the different emotions occur. This is an example of a bad feeling or one we don’t find fun. Studies show that knowing your topic, being able to get organized, practice, and then practicing some more, visualizing your success, doing some deep breaths,  focusing on your material not on your audience, and not fearing a moment of silence will help with bringing down your anxiety and should build confidence.

Lastly, do you think kids our age enjoy school more than they get anxiety from it? I think that we get more anxiety from things. In fact, studies are showing that kids in high school say that they are, “tired” and closely after, “stressed” and “bored”. What percent of teens actually enjoy school? 19% of “subject lovers” “generally enjoy school and feel engaged when they perceive what they're learning to be useful, interesting, and relevant to their daily lives.” (From Yale university). From this research we now know that school mostly brings stress onto kids.

            Yes, feelings vary based on different situations, another example of settings affecting your strongest emotions can be after a bad game. We all know the feeling after a bad game, it’s not fun. Research shows that, “It’s often hard for athletes to get over tough performances. They think a bad game will lead to more.” It also says that, “If you want to rebound after a bad game, you need to manage your self-talk instead of allowing self-criticism to dominate your mind and ruin your future play. You can easily talk your way into a slump by saying things such as, “I can't buy a shot,” “I play bad in the playoffs” or “Here we go again”’ We all know the feeling of sitting in a dead silent car ride home after a bad game, not great.

              In conclusion, school mostly creates stress, and sleep problems. Obviously we can’t stop going to school, but teachers and parents can notice it and help teens with skills to manage it. Our anxiety doesn’t come from just school, the sports and/or after school activities we are in can create stress or anxiety. In my personal opinion our biggest hit is when we have to be perfect so our parents will talk to us in the car. After learning that feelings vary everywhere we are, and the situation we are in I’ll talk to my parents about how I feel. Will you be the reason your kid doesn’t continue their sport, or will you be the reason they love it?